Life is exhausting and expensive. That could have easily been the title of this post. It's true. I stay home with two very crazy puppy-like boys and my husband works, a lot. We are about to celebrate 14 years together and man, that's a lot of years. At this point in our life it's really easy to throw on your pj's, grab a carton of ice cream and veg out in front of the tv together at the end of a normal day. We've heard all of each others stories, know all of the family drama so coasting at this stage would be really easy to do.
With two kids and one income we manage to have one fancy date night per month. And it is magical. But, my sitter has a life and we have a budget so once a month it is. So what do you do when your weekends start to look like this?
You add another date per month and you do it at home. One, it's much more affordable to eat and drink at home and there's no sitter to pay. Two, you can drink and not drive! Three, you're at home, wear a skirt that's too short or that uncomfortable push up bra! Date, date like you mean it, not like you're an old married couple. It's just once a month. Live a little!
We tag team putting the kids down, so it goes fast. Then its our time. We mix it up a lot but there are rules. Okay, one rule, no yoga pants or pjs. I get dressed, at least as cute as I would to go to a movie and sometimes even wear a dress. But it's always thought out, not just thrown on. This is a date!
The house is cleaned that day, I light candles, Mike makes a play list and we hang out. No tv. Just us. We like to have a theme, as if you were at a restaurant and we sit at our dining room table, not in the kitchen. We'll have nachos and margaritas or wine and cheese. Sometimes I cook a full meal, sometimes we get takeout, others it's just drinks and dessert. The menu is fun but it's really about connecting with each other at the end of the week after all of the mundane tasks of a couple with young kids.
We love this time together at home, sometimes more than going out. No interruptions, no bad service, no babysitter transportation. It's awesome. I totally recommend it.
(family photo circa summer 2010)